Showing posts with label sexual rights. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sexual rights. Show all posts

Friday, 13 December 2013

Stuck in Yesterday

Tiny irony: I took this screenshot last night...so technically, I took it yesterday. That is the level I'm at here.
Plurk has been buzzing lately with conversations about the changes Linden Labs have been trying to make to the Terms of Services and, freshly, news about the Australian annulment of same-sex marriage. I know very, very little about the former issue, but I saw the second on the BBC, and right in the middle of the television screen was a placard held by who-knows-who dismissing gay marriage because it isn't accepted in the Bible.

How are these two issues connected? They both represent our attempts to make new rules and regulations for today's people, and we aren't finding it very easy. If anything the media says is to be believed, there are many other ways in which our law system is becoming out of date. The very foundations of our societies are formed by treaties and agreements signed over fifty years ago by people who thought we'd all be flying around on jetpacks now if they could imagine this time at all. 


Those treaties and agreements are intensely important, and whilst they do the job generally, they don't take into account the way we have changed. They don't take into account the Internet, nor the collaborative way in which it allows people to work and to share ownership. In an age of CCTV and Obama reading our emails, we need to redefine 'privacy' and what we are entitled to. In an age of school shootings and children on Prozac, we need to have a conversation about mental health and gun ownership. I could go on.

That people think they are exempt from the law, even when that law has been revisited recently, is obvious: Mark Duggan, slavery in Bristol, even the crisis in Syria are examples of that. These issues should, technically, have been covered by the Geneva Convention, as well as anti-racism initiatives and on-going investigations into police brutality and what it does to your brain to hold a gun in your hand. It's a huge job but we have to keep going back, to look at these problems, to look at the laws and the attitudes that govern them. We need to make sure that they are applicable and relevant to the people they are governing, and we need initiatives in place to spread awareness, understanding, and acceptance of responsibility. 

I am not so naive as to think that there will never be people who commit crimes, and I know that there are a million mitigating factors that come into play, but I don't see how we can be ready to deal with those maturely and sensitively if we are not sure of what, exactly, we have allowed and not allowed in the first place.

I admit, I am not a religious person, but I have grown up in a country whose laws come from the Bible, and I have respect for the Bible as an important and sacred-to-some text. The Bible encourages us to be responsible and to be conscientious - to think of others as well as ourselves, and to look at each other with love. When in doubt, I understand that it is one of many places people go to look for an answer, but I think it is very, very important to remember that those words were committed to paper centuries ago. They weren't given to us; they were given to the people that lived centuries and centuries ago. They were given to people that couldn't imagine the world being anything like the way it is in 2013. They couldn't imagine a jetpack to even begin to envision us flying around with them right now.

The rules we make have got to take into account the way we have changed as well as the ways that we haven't. Go back to Geneva, make our current leaders sign the treaties they weren't even alive to agree to the signing of in the fifties after we have updated them to talk about Guantanamo Bay and the Internet and the liminal space of an airport. 

This will take time, and I am sure that we will face teething problems. The trick, I think, is to be patient but determined. Keep going, keep pushing, keep being sympathetic to everyone, not just those that share your cause. Keep going keep going keep going.

We are not the same people we were twenty years ago, let alone fifty years ago, or a thousand years ago, or two thousand years ago. And we all deserve happiness, safety, honesty and love.

Monday, 11 March 2013

The Theft of a Virtual Body

Boo
I posted this on Flickr the other day, but decided it deserved a post of its own. Please click here - here! - to go and see the picture there.

Sian Pearl has been writing recently about the idea of pornography stealing the nude from art. You can read her post here - here! - and it's worth noting that some interesting ideas have emerged in the comments beneath the post. It has opened, I think, some interesting questions, but also made me think about a few things.

I don't take particularly provocative, shall we say, pictures of my avatar. I wouldn't say she dresses massively provocatively in the first place. Maybe the odd sci-fi outfit with a bare stomach or whatever. But this is about as naked as Kitti gets. 

I don't know why that is. I seem to hold the same rules about self nudity in SL as I do IRL (maybe with some lessening - I wouldn't wear those sci-fi outfits IRL! Though maybe I would if my RL body defied gravity the same way Kitti's does). That wasn't a conscious decision, just something I have gone along with. Maybe I should examine that.

So here. I tried it. I tried to be provocative, whilst only being as naked as I ever really am in SL. Maybe you could say the outfit in the previous picture (entitled Pearl House) is more revealing, but somehow this outfit feels more naked. 

I am, temporarily, stealing the (semi) nude from Sian Pearl, who is brave in all the ways that Kitti isn't. I also took this picture in her house, when she wasn't home, and she didn't actually know I was doing it - just so it felt like real theft :P

Wednesday, 13 February 2013

Something to Say: Regardless

Regardless
The topic of this month's Concerned Bloggers Association unofficial public service announcements is family planning. There is a lot that can be said about this topic, encompassing, as it does, not only the idea of getting advice on planning for families, but also contraception, emergency contraception, abortion, sexual rights, expectations, and prejudices, and disease prevention. But what comes to the forefront of my mind is the scare that took hold of the internet a few months ago surrounding family planning in the USA and the idea that clinics might be closed down. 

This is how I see it. 

Regardless of whether there are family planning clinics, whether there is access to contraception or not, whether abortions are legal or not, whether HIV is rampant or a myth, people are going to have sex. 
Women are going to get pregnant.
There are going to be unwanted pregnancies. 
Those unwanted pregnancies are going to go one of three ways - happily, horribly, or terminated. 
Women are going to have abortions. 

What it comes down to, really, is whether we would rather provide a safe environment for people to get information, help, contraception, and, if needs be, pregnancy termination, or we think it's acceptable for the alternatives, which, in many cases, don't even bear thinking about, to take place. Whatever your personal opinions about abortion and sexual rights, we have to accept that they are just that - our personal opinions - and by banning these things, or making them taboo and dirty, we are simply making it difficult for people in potentially horrendous situations to get the help they need. 

I don't think anybody particularly enjoys the ideas of abortions. I think it would be fair to assume that anybody even considering one is in pretty dire straits. Do they really need more hassle? Do you think they really need to be judged?

The best we can do is create that safe environment to seek information and make a decision based on a realistic picture of their situation in the face of all of the options. We need to educate ourselves and our children so that they can make decisions in the first place, but also know where to look when they need to be re-versed in those options.

They are going to do it anyway. 

LINKS:
 (UK-centric, but all provide useful information for wherever in the world you live)
Family Planning Association - help and advice / find a clinic near you

Some of these pages look daunting, and yes, in some instances, they refer you to a doctor. But a doctor is not there to judge you, and if your doctor does, keep your cool, return to the reception desk, and request to see another doctor. Once you are in a better position mentally and physically, complain about that doctor, because it's just not acceptable. It's easy to say, but, be brave. 

Make the right decision for you - because, ultimately, that will probably be the right decision for your potential children, too.

This public service announcement was brought to you by The Concerned Bloggers Association. For more information, please contact Marleen Vaughan.